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Spiritual Gifts, or, Why do I feel worthless sometimes?

Everyone on this earth has spiritual gifts from God, Christian or not. It’s true! I’m very good at pointing out spiritual gifts- perhaps that’s my spiritual gift….Seriously, though, what has God given you that you can give back to the world? Romans 12 shows that every person has gifts and those gifts may be different for every person: “Having gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, let us use them: if prophecy, in proportion to our faith; if service, in our serving; the one who teaches, in his teaching; the one who exhorts, in his exhortation; the one who contributes, in generosity; the one who leads, with zeal; the one who does acts of mercy, with cheerfulness” (Rom 12:6-8, ESV). So, let’s use our gifts!

But, what if we have no idea what our gifts are? What if we feel we have no gifts? Ah yes, this is a problem, and one I constantly struggle with. In this world today, people are always striving for better things, to better themselves no matter who it may hurt in the process. Magazines portray perfect men, women, children, and homes. TV shows an idyllic world, and guess what? It’s fake! However, after watching these shows and seeing images of ‘perfect’ people, it gets into our brains and tells us we’re not good enough. I can play piano and organ, but after listening to the classic music station on the radio, I don’t really think I’m that good. The clothes I wear are still somewhat modest, but the magazines are telling me I need shorter shorts, and more revealing shirts or else I won’t be liked- I’ll be looked at as the different one. I need to wear make-up to look nice, and take extra time on my hair. I’ve been so affected by society that sometimes, when I hear that God loves me anyway no matter what I do, there is NO WAY I can believe that. What’s the evidence? I’m not good enough, plain and simple.

Now, I know this is a message we’ve all heard many times before, but it’s always worth repeating. God does love you, no matter what you do or what you look like! We call our gifts ‘spiritual’ for a reason- they’re not meant to be compared to flawed standards of society, they’re meant to be used for God! And God really wants us to use our gifts; imagine giving someone a gift that they stored in their closet for years and never used? Yeah, same thing with spiritual gifts. I myself am still working on this area of Biblical Living in my own life, and it’s not easy. Sometimes, using those spiritual gifts for God leaves us vulnerable under the eye of society and we may feel alone, but it’s important to remember: you are not alone! Not only are you joined by an uncountable number of Christians around the world using their gifts, but God is always with you too!

-Stephanie

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God loves the slugs too!

I’m just sitting here with nothing better to do, really. I’ve got a paper I could be working on, cleaning that should be done, and plenty of laundry too. But what I really want to do? Yeah, sit on the couch and read. I’m that kind of girl- sit me down with a good book, and nothing else gets done. So that’s what I’ve been doing! Although I started to feel bad about not really writing anything on my paper, so I got up to look at what I had so far and the Bible popped open to Proverbs 31. UH-OH!

For those who are not familiar, it is a chapter in the Bible describing an ideal wife. “She is far more precious than jewels.” I’d like to think I’m pretty precious. But it goes on from there, folks: “She rises while it is still night and provides food for her household…She girds herself with strength, and makes her arms strong…She makes linen garments and sells them…She looks well to the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness…”

Oh.

I think I just ate the whole loaf of idleness today! Now to be fair, God still loves me when I sit around all day like a slug. He won’t love me any more when I do work- that’s like saying my mother loves me more when I do her dishes, instead of making her do mine too. No, I get up and be productive because I can and because it gives me joy to work for the glory of God and it’s honoring my family as well! Plus, it always makes me feel better to have a clean room, clean clothes, and assignments all done at the end of the day…don’t you agree? Ahh, I think I have work to do…

-Stephanie

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May 1st has arrived!

I am definitely wearing pants. I’ve actually worn a few pairs today, I can’t lie. It’s almost like the pants are hugging my legs- what an odd feeling after wearing skirts and dresses for a month! When my parents and I prayed over our dinner, I wasn’t scrambling to wear a scarf. I called my hairdresser and scheduled a long-overdue trim. Michael is going to cut his hair later today. It seems like life is back to the way it was before April….or is it?

I am changed, for the better to be sure. I’m not sure anyone could come out of a month of “living Biblically” unchanged. I have no clue how those changes will continue to shape my life, but stay tuned- I will certainly let you know!

-Stephanie

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It’s raining.

It’s raining, and I’m wearing a long skirt. There are worms all over the ground, so it’s like a game to avoid stepping on one or getting it up my skirt- ICK! This is also the last day that I must wear a skirt and scarf. I admit, I’m excited about wearing pants tomorrow, and not having to wear a scarf. I mentioned before that I don’t actually mind wearing skirts, so I think I will keep on wearing them from time to time. However, something must go, and that something is wearing scarves! I did not anticipate just how hot I’d be wearing scarves all the time! I guess they really do what they’re supposed to…
Just in case you were bummed out about not seeing Michael and I post anymore, don’t worry- we’ll still be here! After all, there are some things on our rules list that we just won’t live without, which may be contrary to the lives of other people. I’d like to think that we bring hope to others wishing to express their faith in their daily lives, and some questions answered to those who don’t believe in God. We’re not saying every Christian should live this way, this is just the way we feel personally convicted to live- and we accept all people, skirts or pants 🙂

-Stephanie

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Have a bit of extra time?

Here are just a few links to pages I found interesting through the past few days. It is by no means an exhaustive list! I can’t say if they are all correct, or incorrect- I’ll leave the judgement to you:

http://www.imnoangel.org/ -A former Victoria’s Secret model turns to modesty instead

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MJ9XRCYgtRU -A man speaking about why women should wear head coverings

http://www.covered4him.com/Headcovering-Testimony.php -Another testimony about covering the head

http://www.duggarfamily.com/ -Duggar family, committed to wearing modest clothing

http://www.have-faith.org/modest.html -A view on what modesty is

-Stephanie

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Why is the world so conflicted on different messages?

I can see May 1st on the 10 day forecast now…the day I can finally go back to wearing pants! Or….will I?

When I start any project, like this month of living Biblically, I almost always go into the project prepared to do a little research. For this month, I obviously needed to use the Bible as my number one tool, but after that, there were several books I referenced for ideas. One of my biggest questions was why some women choose to wear skirts and dresses exclusively, and why some don’t. My family and friends are all in the ‘don’t’ category. Many of the women who do point to Deut. 22:5 as their reference point, which tells us that men should not wear women’s clothing, and women should not wear men’s clothing. This being said, some argue that pants belong to men and skirts belong to women. Even more important to some women is the modesty fact, which also cannot be fulfilled while wearing pants, and must be fulfilled by wearing skirts that cover at least the knee. Some women also claim that men tend to look at parts of the body rather than the face when wearing pants.

So, does this mean that I will be wearing skirts exclusively from now on, or will I go back to wearing pants? I must admit, I do miss my pants, and I believe there are some things that are much more modest in pants anyway. That being said, I’ve always enjoyed wearing skirts too, so don’t be surprised if you see me in skirts more often…

-Stephanie

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Little Life Lessons in Disguise

I cannot lie- these past two days have been tough! I got my jury summons in the mail a few weeks ago and groaned. Then forgot about it…..until a few days ago, when I realized I had to appear April 8th (yesterday). There were so many reasons in my head why I could not go: homework, sleep, wedding planning. Unfortunately, none were truly valid excuses, so I got up and made my way to the courthouse yesterday morning. Although I was grumbling the whole time, I was optimistic that the process would go quickly, and I’d be home by noon yesterday for lunch. HA!

Let me tell you a story about a girl named Stephanie. She was doing a really great job of keeping calm and not complaining too much…but when jury duty stretched out into yesterday afternoon, patience was gone. And when I learned I had to come back today, I was extremely grumpy! After two full days of jury duty (I was in the last panel for questioning, but was not picked) I must admit that I am tired, hungry, and grumpy. I had forgotten my scarf at home, so my head was uncovered in prayer today. I had optimistically forgotten my lunch at home, hoping I’d be home to stay home, but no…

God had some serious tests of patience for me! Just when I thought I had perfected that skill, He showed me that there is always room for improvement! I am slowly learning that the more you trust in God, the more He shows His presence and mercy. Learning these things in Sunday School ten years ago, and living these things are two very different things to be sure!

-Stephanie

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The Little Things- a Female View

Day six, and I’ve been doing well with my all-modest-and-skirt wardrobe so far. The only exceptions came today while I was WEDDING DRESS shopping. I can honestly say that most of the dresses did not fit my strict modesty rules, but I had plenty of fun trying on as many as I could. And, if you were wondering, I did pick out and buy a most beautiful wedding dress, but I certainly cannot describe it here- Michael can’t know what it looks like!
I will admit, it was a bit of a bummer to get back into my street clothes after that.

Speaking of street clothes, I got a brand-new, long jean skirt and was so excited to finally wear it this past Thursday! It fit great, and I started to walk down the stairs when I realized I wasn’t getting anywhere very quickly- the opening of the skirt wasn’t very wide, so I was confined to taking small steps the whole day. Michael and I went to have dinner at the apartment of friends, and I had to keep telling him to slow down! I think God may be telling me to slow down and smell the roses a bit…

The scarves have been another issue- that is, when I remember to cover my head when I pray. I don’t know about you, but sometimes I pray in the shower. It just isn’t practical to place a scarf over my head then! Sometimes the ends of the scarf dangle in my food, or get zipped up in my jacket. I have seen many people stare in public as I place my scarf over my head to pray, but these things don’t bother me as much as I might have thought when beginning the month. Phil. 4:13!

So, even just after the first 6 days, I’m finding that there are many common-courtesy things that are missing from society. How many guys open doors (and car doors!) for women? I’m still finding it tough to remember to let Michael open the doors! I try to smile at everyone I see during the day, even though it is not an official rule, because you just never know who could use one! Being pleasant, kind, and forgiving is not always taught often in our society either. After Michael was grumpy today because he could not see my dress (wait until the wedding day!!), he realized how he was acting and apologized. Forgiving him for being grumpy? Much harder than I thought, but I did… having Michael as my partner (and knowing we both make God our priority!) makes my future seem brighter. I view Michael (and all my friends and family) as a gift from God, and it’s our job to love, cherish, and forgive all people, even our enemies!

I have to agree with Michael: “even the little things count to God.” A smile, opening the door, or even sincerely forgiving someone all make a wonderful difference in the world.

-Stephanie

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Snow? Must be an April Fools joke…

I wore a turtle neck to my shift at the hospital today. No- not because it was a more modest choice, but because I was COLD! Just a few hours ago, it was snowing. When I decided I wanted to do a month of following the Bible as close as our modern world would allow, I chose April because it would be warm enough (or so I thought) to wear many of the skirts I owned. Luckily, I do own a few long skirts that will be put to very good use these next few days, and sweaters and scarves will certainly help keep me warm!

I volunteer at a hospital, and for saftey and health reasons I am not allowed to wear a scarf or non-approved head covering, so this is the only location where I will not be covering my head while in prayer. As Rachel Held Evans writes in her book A Year of Biblical Womanhood (Nashville, Tennessee:Thomas Nelson, 2012), “…if you’re intent on trying to keep all the commands, you should know ahead of time that you’re going to bump into at least three or four that you simply can’t (or won’t) keep. The Bible is a hundred times older than you are. Prepare to be humbled by it.” (48)

Humbled we are!

-Stephanie

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Pants

Two days left to wear pants…I decided to save my two favorite pairs of jeans to wear this weekend, because on Monday I begin my journey of modesty. For me, modesty equates wearing skirts (Deut 22:5), not showing off what should be kept private (if you know what I mean…) and I’ll be wearing a scarf daily so that I can cover my head while in prayer (1 Cor 11:3-16). But for now, I’m letting my head enjoy the spring breeze….

-Stephanie

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